By Arleen Bradley
Loving yourself is the first step in believing in yourself.
Today is a day for letting the people you know you love them. But do you love you? How are you showing yourself love? It’s important that you love yourself all the time, but more so when you are struggling. A little self-love can go a long way when you are feeling the results of the black hole.
When I experienced the black hole, my confidence and esteem diminished. After months of no success, I began to feel that I was a loser. I thought it was pointless to fill out another application or send another résumé. Does this sound familiar?
If you are like most long-term unemployed, I’m sure it does. And feeling this way is the biggest hindrance to your job search success. Only when I became confident on the inside as I seemed on the outside, did I find success.
It came when I realized that people weren’t rejecting “me”; they found someone better qualified in the enormous pool of candidates. I had to realize that my thoughts were holding me back. And when I did, I was able to change them and took action to prove to myself I was capable.
I would like to share 3 quotes with you today. Think of them as my Valentine’s gift to you.
Zig Ziglar said, “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.” This is true. My clients who are positive about their job search find success quicker than the ones who have started the downward spiral.
Henry Ford said, “Whether you think that you can, or that you can’t, you are usually right.” You can do anything you think you can because you won’t stop trying. You will do everything you can to succeed. Resting isn’t an option.
And finally my last quote is by Lee Pryke. I love the title of her website: IamIcan.ca. The reason I love this quote is how she notes that loving yourself is the key to achieving. And that’s what I am talking about today.
She says, “Understanding and unconditionally loving yourself is the key to achieving everything you desire. Understanding is the part that I believe so many slide by, therefore, finding self-love a challenge. When we understand what our inner thought process is about ourselves, we can address the areas that most desire a tender loving hug.” Today give yourself a hug. Allow yourself some time to take care of you. Do one thing you enjoy, and I’m sure that it has nothing to do with job searching. You’ve earned it. You are poised for success; it’s just around the corner.